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Care Choices Leadership Qualities Self awareness

The most important decision in your life

When flight attendants give their pre-flight safety instructions, one thing they tell you is that, in the case of a drop in cabin pressure, be sure to place the oxygen mask over your own face first before assisting anyone else, even your own children. 

This instruction strongly contradicts most parents’ instincts.… Read the rest

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Choices Culture Decision Making Strategy Thinking Transformation

How do you become an independent thinker?

“I don’t pay you to think; I pay you to execute.”—Retired CEO of Retail Chain.

From 2007 until 2011, I worked for a retail chain in the United States. The chain flourished during the nineties when it expanded aggressively, growing to over 1200 stores in a few years.

You can only grow with tens of stores per year when your operation is a perfectly oiled machine that executes flawlessly.… Read the rest

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Choices Dreams Goals Mindset Vision

How hungry are you?

I hope you are enjoying the holiday season.

This week, just one Insight from me due to the holidays. We have a few more days until 2024 starts, and we start a new cycle of 366 days. 

Yes, 2024 is a leap year. So one day extra to excel.

Let’s start with a question.… Read the rest

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Choices Discipline Growth Life Mindset

Choose your pain

A life without pain is impossible.

Every human being on this planet will go through pain at some point in their life.

We may experience death, sickness, violence, accidents, wars, relationship issues, get fired, be discriminated against, get bullied, etcetera, etcetera.

Pain is simply inevitable. 

If you’re heavy, you will have pain.… Read the rest

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Choices Growth Growth Learning Life

Are you leaving something on the table?

In one of my earlier posts, I spoke about organizational pain. 

Companies and leaders that can create organizational pain leave nothing on the table. 

I wrote this story to give you food for thought and to help you decide whether you’re leaving anything on the table in your life.

It’s a story with multiple realities and a bit of self-reflection. 
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Choices Curiosity Habits Life Purpose

Maktub

When we travel as a family to different places and we can visit a bookstore, we make it happen.

My daughter has inherited her love for books, bookstores, and libraries from my mother. Wherever we go, one of her first things to find out is the location of the bookstores.

Reykjavik, Iceland was no different.
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Behavior Choices Growth Mindset Values

Upset to Setup

All of us are dealing with upsets in our lives.

Moments when our values, beliefs, norms, or safety are in danger. These can be real threats that might cause any harm or perceived threats that won’t physically harm us. Unfortunately, the amygdala, part of our brain, can not distinguish between real and perceived threats.… Read the rest

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Choices Leading Self Life Productivity Purpose

The illusion of busyness

Recently I had to say goodbye to a family member.

Relatively sudden. 

I won’t write about the circumstances, no worries. I’ll just write about a sudden shift in priorities when something like this happens to you.

From one moment to the other, things change dramatically. What mattered yesterday is suddenly not that important anymore. … Read the rest

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Choices Courage Dreams Life Purpose

Carpe Diem

Who doesn’t remember John Keating?

The famous English teacher from the movie Dead Poet’s Society, played by the late Robin Williams, and recorded over thirty years ago.

While writing this story, I reminded myself to watch the movie again. It’s a classic.

John Keating is a man of my heart.

He stands on tables to demonstrate to his students that the world looks different when you stand on a table and look from above.… Read the rest

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Choices Coaching Life Purpose Self awareness

Why you need a coach!

You need a coach!

You may disagree, but I invite you to read on.

Next Tuesday, I’ll share the opening rate of my insight today, claiming that you need a coach.

I wouldn’t be surprised if the rate is lower than usual because many of my readers do not think they need a coach.… Read the rest

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Choices Life Mindset Purpose

Are you happy?

Are you happy? 

Not just right now, while you’re reading this insight, but in general?

It doesn’t mean you’re always happy, but is there a sense of contentment inside of you with the way you’re living your life?

Before you start thinking about whether my state of happiness is this insight’s purpose, I want to let you know that I’m happy.… Read the rest

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Choices Courage Life Mindset Purpose

What do you NOT want?

You have one life!

That was, in essence, the core message of my last insight.

How you spend your life is totally up to you and nobody else. Please don’t come to me with the nonsense that how you live your life depends on others.

It doesn’t.

You decide.

You always, always, and always have a choice. 
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Choices Growth Life Mindset Purpose

Mind. Set. Grow. Every day!

You want to make the best of your life, right?

Right!

Does that also mean you want to make the best of every day?

Or do you occasionally skip a day because, in the grand scheme of things, what difference can one day make?

I understand that’s not your intention.

Nobody wakes up in the morning thinking they will suck that day or mess up what they’re going to do.

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Choices Leading Self Mindset Ownership Purpose

Ownership

My god, it’s getting worse every year. 

And writing this email to you is adding to the problem, I’m fully aware. 

The start of a new year is THE natural moment to bring closure to what has been and start working on what will be.

Let’s face it; when you use a paper journal that leverages a calendar, you probably enjoy a fresh new bundle of paper. … Read the rest

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Choices Execution Learning Mindset Reflection

Just another Friday

There are days you will not soon forget in your life.

Last Friday was a day I rather forget, but that’s probably not going to happen.

You’re reading this post today, the following Friday. A lot has happened in between, so the news is old.

But the memory is still very fresh.
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Choices Freedom Leading Self Productivity Self awareness

You’re busy! Are you productive too?

Let’s talk busyness.

I spent some time traveling the last weeks, visiting hotels with conference facilities.

I love hotels with conference facilities. They’re a source of inspiration for stories.

Not only are the hotels happy Covid is under control, but so am I. 

It’s mad busyness. And I love to watch it.
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Choices Growth Learning Mindset Reflection

Why turning points matter

Tonight, Friday the ninth of December, the Netherlands plays Argentina in the World Cup.

You know me.

I sometimes link my insights to sports, yet I keep them relevant to personal, leadership, and team growth. 

A lot has been said about this World Cup in Qatar, and I’d like to add my perspective. … Read the rest

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Change Choices Courage Dreams Purpose

Your turn

It’s your turn.

This a common phrase when we play games with friends or family.

These words typically come out when we don’t pay attention and are somewhere else in our minds or are doing something else.

This time it’s about the game of life.

It’s your turn from the moment you’re born.… Read the rest

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Change Choices Leadership Mindset Vision

Causing pain

Sometimes you must create deliberate pain to get something you want to do in motion.

I remember vividly a conversation with my mentor Joyce who often talked about CEOs having to create organizational pain once in a while to shake things up.

When things are becoming complacent, and they often do, you need to create pain.… Read the rest

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Choices Discipline Mindset Productivity Self awareness

20/20/20

You’re the most important person in your life.

Erikjan Lantink

When you agree with this statement, great! Read on and be inspired.

When you disagree, here’s why I’d like you to reconsider.

You may consider family, partner, friends, cats, or dogs more important in your life, but if you weren’t there, they would still continue living.… Read the rest