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Choices Freedom Self awareness Transformation

Awareness is clarity

Why are you doing what you’re doing currently in your life?

It’s a tiny seed I try to plant for some reflection and awareness.

To quote Andy from Headspace:

“Awareness is clarity, and clarity is life.”

Andy from Headspace

Isn’t that what it’s all about in life? To create clarity for ourselves, what matters most to us and in what direction we’re going?… Read the rest

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Courage Fear Growth Mindset Self awareness

Why it’s time to let go

Last weekend I went to see the sequel of Top Gun.

Before you decide not to read further, please don’t worry; I’m not going to reveal any of the plot or big scenes or how the movie ends.

You can read this insight and still go see the movie without any hints of what’s happening.
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Asking Questions Growth Leadership Purpose Self awareness

Three surprising questions to figure out what you want

What pisses you off?

I’ll make sure to clarify first at the start of this insight. I’m just asking this question about the work you do.

I’m not asking you about things in your personal life that piss you off. So if your spouse never cleans out the dishwasher, sorry for you, but that’s not the stuff I’m interested in.… Read the rest

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Growth Learning Mindset Reflection Self awareness

Maximizer or Satisficer?

There are areas in my life where I want the very best.

Food is such an area. I love going to a good restaurant (I’m not writing expensive) and enjoying a good meal with a great conversation.

Food and conversation go excellently together. Food, to me, is emotional beyond the functional role of providing your body with nutrition and energy.… Read the rest

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Habits Learning Self awareness

I made a mistake

I made a mistake last weekend.

I didn’t realize it until Monday early morning when I was getting ready to write my insight for that week.

I sat down behind my laptop, ready to start writing, but there was nothing. No idea what to write about. No immediate inspiration. No funny things jumped into my mind.… Read the rest

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Change Learning Mindset Self awareness

Why change always comes from within

Steve Jobs ended his famous Stanford Commencement speech with this tip for the graduating students:

“Stay hungry. Stay foolish.”

Steve Jobs

My interpretation:

Always look for opportunities to make ‘things’ better, starting with yourself. Always be curious about yourself and the world around you.

Curiosity and change are the fun parts of being alive and growing as a human being and leader.… Read the rest

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Asking Questions Conversations Feedback Growth Self awareness

If someone took control of your life tomorrow, what’s the first thing they would change?

What a brilliant question.

And what a hard question to answer without showing a certain degree of vulnerability (read also my story “Vulnerability is a Differentiator”).

How honest are you going to be when answering this question?

Or perhaps, how self-aware are you to be able to answer the question properly?… Read the rest

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Change Courage Growth Self awareness Trust

Vulnerability is a differentiator.

What’s your first reaction when you see this headline?

When I read this quote last week, my brain went into a pirouette that would have won gold at the most recent Olympic Games.

Meaning that for me there are different twists to this quote with both positive and negative implications.

While the author’s intentions were positive, it’s easy to point at the downsides of demonstrating vulnerability as well.… Read the rest

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Culture Human Resources Purpose Reflection Self awareness

When people start quitting, you’re already too late!

Three immediate and crucial actions to stop the bleeding.

By now, you must be familiar with the term The Great Resignation.

The Covid pandemic has caused people en masse to leave their jobs looking for a different career. It was the crisis people needed to open their eyes and seek new opportunities.… Read the rest

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Courage Goals Mindset Self awareness

“I do”

I love golf.

It’s one of the best sports out there. Golf is one of those sports that, when you believe you’ve mastered it, it throws you right back to a level where you feel like a beginner again.

Golf is about mastery.

It’s not just about mastering the technique of hitting a golf ball well, but it’s, even more, a battle of the mind.… Read the rest

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Disruption Reflection Self awareness Transformation

Work in progress, baby

You probably did not miss THE slap of Will Smith earlier this week.

It’s the best thing that possibly could have happened to the Oscars.

Yes, I mean it. It’s the crisis the Oscars needed to finally implement the change required. The real question here is not what will happen to Will Smith but what will happen to the Oscars.… Read the rest

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Authenticity Impact Purpose Self awareness Values

Are you keeping up appearances?

When I grew up, there was a show on TV called ‘Keeping up appearances.’

The main character, Hyacinth Bucket, or Bouquet as she called herself, lived a life pretending to be well off and part of society’s elite. I still vividly can hear her over-the-top English accent as she tried to make everyone believe she was the living example of high status.… Read the rest

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Coaching Learning Self awareness Strategy

How to be a good coach. Also for leaders

I follow quite a few business coaches for a number of reasons.

My primary purpose is to learn.

Some coaches create great content.

Some are excellent at marketing themselves and their services.

Some know how to leverage data and technology to the maximum.

Some are not good, and these also provide learning.… Read the rest

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Gratitude Mindset Reflection Self awareness

Connecting to joy

When was the last time you truly enjoyed yourself?

If you have to think about this question, please skip the following question.

Perhaps a better, slightly more provoking question I could ask is whether you make it a point to find joy every day.

There’s a saying in the Netherlands that a day without joy is a day not lived.… Read the rest

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Courage Culture Fear Psychological Safety Self awareness

Don’t challenge me, Erikjan!

I consider myself outspoken and not afraid to voice my opinion when I disagree.

It’s who I am.

It’s how I was raised, and it’s part of the Dutch culture.

We’re direct, curious, and want to know why we’re doing something.

“Because I tell you so” doesn’t do very well with most Dutch people.
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Care Courage Culture Self awareness

Speak up!? How some people just don’t get it.

How often have you heard one of your leaders say the words “speak up”?

Or perhaps, how many times have you said them yourself?

I know that I’ve been in a few situations myself when I felt compelled to express those words. And I’ve also heard them being spoken to me a few times.… Read the rest

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Experimentation Learning Self awareness

Five lessons I learned from my webinar

Last week Thursday, I hosted a webinar on personal growth. My ambition is to do more online, so this was an intentional experiment.

Without experiments, life would be boring.

The only way to find out whether something works is by doing it. You can’t make a difference and change the world on paper.… Read the rest

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Purpose Self awareness

What you can learn from Maslow’s pyramid of needs

When I started to educate myself in the principles of web development and email marketing, I came to a few interesting discoveries.

As a marketing and management university graduate, I know the principles of marketing, but obviously, the world has changed a lot since I graduated.

Marketing has evolved dramatically with the introduction of modern technology, the world wide web, and social media.… Read the rest

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Growth Purpose Reflection Self awareness

How to determine you’re at a turning point?

I’m at a turning point.

And before I continue with my turning point, let’s talk a little about yours. When you receive this email, 2022 is about ten days old. You may find my next question stupid, but it’s not.

How were the first ten days of this year?

Have you made progress and moved in the right direction?… Read the rest

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Leading Self Self awareness Values

The Invisible Backpack

Earlier this week, we went out for a coffee with the family, played a new game we discovered over the holidays called ‘exploding kittens,’ and bought a pair of running shoes before heading back home.

On the way out, we passed a store with many backpacks on display. Backpacks in all sizes, colors, and quality. … Read the rest