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Authenticity Coaching Marketing Mindset Social Media

Na-apen (copycatting)

“You’re not going to like me now.”

What was considered normal twenty years ago is unacceptable these days.

I grew up knowing that my country, the Netherlands, had a colonial history, but we were taught in school more or less matter of fact. It was a part of our history, and we didn’t consider the implications deeply.… Read the rest

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Care Execution Freedom Mindset Team effectiveness

Travel is not a team sport

“But we’re fourteen!”

That was the argument from a traveler last Friday morning at 5.18 am when I was in a massive security line at Amsterdam Schiphol Airport.

The lady was talking to a security assistant and making her case that she was about to miss her flight with her group if she would not be allowed to get to the front of the line.… Read the rest

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Authenticity Culture Execution Kindness Values

Spirit to Serve

Some people have it by nature; others get it by training. Some never do.

Some people have a serving mentality just by being who they are.

Erikjan Lantink

This story is about them and to honor them.

Concretely, it is about two people working in the bar of the hotel I’m staying in while working in Ljubljana, Slovenia.… Read the rest

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Choices Differentiation Disruption Mindset Strategy

It’s your job

Question.

Have you ever been disrupted to the extent that you were not sure your business (or any other example) would survive?

Your life was good until the moment this competitor suddenly appeared with significantly more money than you have to lure your people away, offer a different product, and shake you to your core.… Read the rest

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Asking Questions Communication Conversations Culture Leadership

The Heart of your Business

Last week I conducted my training called “Growing Leaders and Culture.”

Its principles are based on effective dialogue.

Why?

Because dialogue is what makes people grow and deliver on their dreams.

You’ve done half the work if you understand that running a successful business is an accumulation of constructive, forward-looking, and growth-focused dialogues.… Read the rest

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Change Getting better Learning Mindset Self awareness

I’m a piece of work. So are you.

I’m a piece of work.

People who know me well would agree — opinionated, not afraid to challenge, little patience with stupidity, occasionally moody.

But… I’m also honest, caring, helpful, generous, and a good listener.

Here’s the thing.

You’re also a piece of work. We all are.

We’re a piece of work from the moment we’re born.… Read the rest

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Authenticity Disruption Kindness Mindset Qualities

Wildfires, DNA, and life lessons

What a week it was.

Our vacation started with spending the night in a different place than planned.

Our rental for the week was not accessible because of wildfires near the house.

We got this message as soon as we landed in Heraklion, Crete.

First thought? Here we go!

Murphy’s law.
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Communication Conversations Self awareness

Watch your language

“We’ve discussed this several times before.”

Ok, if we already discussed this several times before, why are we discussing it again then?

Was it because we never decided what we needed to do? Or perhaps, we didn’t listen well enough? Or is it possible that you didn’t explain it adequately?

Or perhaps, you just don’t know how to have a proper conversation.… Read the rest

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Change Choices Courage Freedom Purpose

Listen carefully! Don’t respond!

“Listen carefully!” 

“Just like in communism, I can only talk to you and give you commands and information. You can’t reply or talk back. The good old times.”

Berlin tour guide

I think it still works in many companies precisely that way (remember Elon Musk), which is another sad story in itself.… Read the rest

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Change Discipline Growth Mindset Performance

You’re not a tree

“If you don’t like how things are, change it. You are not a tree.”

Jim Rohn

I took a liking recently to the quotes from Jim Rohn. At the risk of offending someone, I had never heard of Jim until a few months ago.

Thanks to the algorithm of Instagram, one of his quotes showed up, which was enough reason to do a little more research.… Read the rest

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Choices Disruption Execution Mindset Reflection

Sense of urgency

When are you typically confronted with the term “sense of urgency”?

Most likely, when you, or the person or team you’re in conversation with, do not demonstrate a sense of urgency.

I’ve heard the term many times in my life.

In non-urgent situations, when I was confronted that my conversation partner(s) thought that I was not showing a sense of urgency.… Read the rest

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Disruption Dreams Execution Purpose Vision

Obsessed

What’s your first thought when you read the word obsessed?

It’s probably negative, right?

Usually, not many good things come from obsessive behavior.

When I was a kid, I was obsessed with collecting Panini football cards. I did everything possible to get my book completed.

Including the chores I most resented, only to get a little bit of cash to buy cards and complete my album.… Read the rest

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Choices Freedom Self awareness Transformation

Awareness is clarity

Why are you doing what you’re doing currently in your life?

It’s a tiny seed I try to plant for some reflection and awareness.

To quote Andy from Headspace:

“Awareness is clarity, and clarity is life.”

Andy from Headspace

Isn’t that what it’s all about in life? To create clarity for ourselves, what matters most to us and in what direction we’re going?… Read the rest

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Change Culture Leadership Mindset

Let’s talk about work a little (more)

Or let’s debate about work a lot (less).

Wow. 

If you’re a curious person like I am and interested in the future of work, these are FANTASTIC times.

They’re so so so good that it’s worth adding them to my portfolio of services. I’m just unsure how to call the service and what the tagline would be.… Read the rest

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Change Culture Leadership Purpose

Motivation! How hard is it?

How do you motivate people?

I’m asking because I recently had a conversation about a hybrid work environment that turned into a conversation about motivation.

My opinion about a hybrid work environment is well documented, for example, in this post.

But if you dig a little deeper, we get to the topic of motivation. … Read the rest

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Courage Fear Growth Mindset Self awareness

Why it’s time to let go

Last weekend I went to see the sequel of Top Gun.

Before you decide not to read further, please don’t worry; I’m not going to reveal any of the plot or big scenes or how the movie ends.

You can read this insight and still go see the movie without any hints of what’s happening.
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Asking Questions Growth Leadership Purpose Self awareness

Three surprising questions to figure out what you want

What pisses you off?

I’ll make sure to clarify first at the start of this insight. I’m just asking this question about the work you do.

I’m not asking you about things in your personal life that piss you off. So if your spouse never cleans out the dishwasher, sorry for you, but that’s not the stuff I’m interested in.… Read the rest

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Choices Courage Dreams Purpose Vision

Most people are just plowing along…

You got to love those good old interview questions.

Last week I had a conversation about interview questions. The person I talked to shared her annoyance with questions like, “where do you want to be in five years from now.”

She shared with me that she didn’t see how that was relevant to someone landing a job right now.… Read the rest

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Courage Growth Learning Mindset Psychological Safety

You become what you pay attention to

You need a breather.

Seriously, when was the last time you consciously paid attention to your breathing?

When was the last time you sat with your breathing and paid full attention to you filling your lungs with air and then releasing the air from your lungs?

Most people get through their day without even once being aware of the fact that they’re breathing.
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Culture Growth Mindset Values Vision

Growing Pains

Can a company grow too fast?

The answer to that question is yes, but many will struggle to provide me with that answer because they’ve never experienced it.

Only those who’ve gone through a period of excessive growth and had to deal with the consequences will answer the question with a yes.
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