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Asking Questions Conversations Feedback Growth Self awareness

If someone took control of your life tomorrow, what’s the first thing they would change?

What a brilliant question.

And what a hard question to answer without showing a certain degree of vulnerability (read also my story “Vulnerability is a Differentiator”).

How honest are you going to be when answering this question?

Or perhaps, how self-aware are you to be able to answer the question properly?… Read the rest

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Execution Mindset Team effectiveness

It was written in the tea leaves

It’s Easter Monday and a travel day for me. In the morning, a four-hour drive from my in-law’s home and a two-leg flight to Ljubljana in the evening.

A lot of time to reflect on some past events. One of them was the cup final my team lost yesterday evening.

Good game, good fight, bad outcome.
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Change Courage Growth Self awareness Trust

Vulnerability is a differentiator.

What’s your first reaction when you see this headline?

When I read this quote last week, my brain went into a pirouette that would have won gold at the most recent Olympic Games.

Meaning that for me there are different twists to this quote with both positive and negative implications.

While the author’s intentions were positive, it’s easy to point at the downsides of demonstrating vulnerability as well.… Read the rest

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Culture Human Resources Purpose Reflection Self awareness

When people start quitting, you’re already too late!

Three immediate and crucial actions to stop the bleeding.

By now, you must be familiar with the term The Great Resignation.

The Covid pandemic has caused people en masse to leave their jobs looking for a different career. It was the crisis people needed to open their eyes and seek new opportunities.… Read the rest

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Courage Goals Mindset Self awareness

“I do”

I love golf.

It’s one of the best sports out there. Golf is one of those sports that, when you believe you’ve mastered it, it throws you right back to a level where you feel like a beginner again.

Golf is about mastery.

It’s not just about mastering the technique of hitting a golf ball well, but it’s, even more, a battle of the mind.… Read the rest

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Disruption Reflection Self awareness Transformation

Work in progress, baby

You probably did not miss THE slap of Will Smith earlier this week.

It’s the best thing that possibly could have happened to the Oscars.

Yes, I mean it. It’s the crisis the Oscars needed to finally implement the change required. The real question here is not what will happen to Will Smith but what will happen to the Oscars.… Read the rest

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Change Coaching Freedom Helping others Purpose

Why everyone wants to be a coach!?

Most of you, non-Dutch readers, have probably never heard of Arjen Lubach. He’s a Dutch comedian, although provocateur is probably a better word, with a daily show on Dutch TV.

In the past, he used to broadcast once a week, and with better quality in my opinion, but like most ambitious and successful program makers, more is more, and so we now can watch him daily.… Read the rest

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Execution Impact Mindset Productivity

Chopping 10 trees at the same time

Have you ever seen a woodchopper running around in a forest trying to chop ten trees simultaneously?

Imagine the scene.

Every time he gets to a tree, he chops at it a few times, and then he goes on to the next tree. After some considerable time running around, all ten trees are still standing, and the woodchopper is worn-out and on his last legs.… Read the rest

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Belonging Culture Purpose

The truth about work

Many things in life are a transaction.

When you buy your coffee in the morning, get gas for your car, work out at a gym, or pay for a subscription to read your favorite newspaper online.

For many people, work is also a transaction. They’ve agreed to do a specific job for you, and you pay them for the job done.… Read the rest

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Authenticity Impact Purpose Self awareness Values

Are you keeping up appearances?

When I grew up, there was a show on TV called ‘Keeping up appearances.’

The main character, Hyacinth Bucket, or Bouquet as she called herself, lived a life pretending to be well off and part of society’s elite. I still vividly can hear her over-the-top English accent as she tried to make everyone believe she was the living example of high status.… Read the rest

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Curiosity Gratitude Mindset Reflection

How to create peace of mind

I start every day with the same ritual, getting up before the rest of the family wakes up making the time to exercise and meditate.

I follow this routine seven days per week because mind and body do not distinguish between weekdays and weekends.

Weekends are a made-up concept anyway, just like the belief that work needs to be done in an office from Monday to Friday at fixed times.… Read the rest

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Dreams Habits Health Performance

Good morning! How did you sleep?

Did you have a good night’s sleep last night?

Did anything that’s going on now prevent you from sleeping well? Are you generally sleeping well, or does mental chatter influence the quality of your sleep.

Some people always sleep well, no matter what’s going on in their life. I’m not that person.… Read the rest

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Change Freedom Reflection Vision

Musings from a little coffee place

We have a little coffee place in the next village over that we like to go to. It’s small, authentic, has excellent coffee, the best cakes, and started selling fresh bread last year as well.

There’s only one of it. It serves its unique purpose to people in the village and those who like to walk or bike in the forest nearby.… Read the rest

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Change Conflict Freedom Purpose

What the president of Ukraine is teaching us about purpose

Personally, I find it hard to write about general business and leadership topics while the world is up in arms.

I’m doing a pretty good job of remaining focused on what I need to be focused on, while it’s clear that many others are continuously following the news and the latest developments.… Read the rest

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Change Courage Dreams Fear

Life is not a to-do list

I started writing this insight when the world still seemed to be sort of normal.

I have a folder with topics and draft posts that I regularly update when I get inspired by an interesting topic.

After I write my first sentences down, I continue if the words flow immediately or pause if I want the topic to evolve a little.… Read the rest

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Coaching Learning Self awareness Strategy

How to be a good coach. Also for leaders

I follow quite a few business coaches for a number of reasons.

My primary purpose is to learn.

Some coaches create great content.

Some are excellent at marketing themselves and their services.

Some know how to leverage data and technology to the maximum.

Some are not good, and these also provide learning.… Read the rest

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Change Curiosity Fear Habits Mindset

Seven practical tips for dealing with change

Too much change makes us uncomfortable. We have a natural tendency to resist when change happens to us.

If you thought things would calm down, now that Covid seems to be more or less under control, you were in for a surprise last week. The word war has actively entered our vocabulary again.… Read the rest

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Dreams Freedom Values

Yesterday was not a good day

Yesterday, everything I believe in got a hit, starting with the right to freedom.

I am deeply disturbed by the war that Mr. Putin started yesterday.

I woke up with the news yesterday morning before heading home after a brief vacation. For the rest of the day, I was off my usual self.… Read the rest

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Gratitude Mindset Reflection Self awareness

Connecting to joy

When was the last time you truly enjoyed yourself?

If you have to think about this question, please skip the following question.

Perhaps a better, slightly more provoking question I could ask is whether you make it a point to find joy every day.

There’s a saying in the Netherlands that a day without joy is a day not lived.… Read the rest

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Care Goals Social Media Writing

Kiss & Cry

Yesterday I watched the figure skating contest at the Winter Olympics in Beijing.

Stop. Don’t go away.

Stay here, and let me finish. Takes only three minutes of your time.

If I remember well, figure skating was broadcasted between speed skating and ice hockey. Speed skating for the Dutch part of me and ice hockey for the Czech part.… Read the rest