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Diversity of Thought Self awareness Team effectiveness

Don’t shoot the messenger

Men don’t like rejection. Women aim to be perfect.

Did I catch your attention?

Here’s another one…

When men have to decide to apply for a job, they are more likely to do so when they meet six out of ten requirements for the role.

When women have to decide to apply for a job, they are more likely to do so when they meet at least nine out of ten requirements, but ideally all.… Read the rest

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Health Purpose Self awareness

Before you DO, BE first

May is mental health awareness month.

I wrote this first sentence down on Sunday evening and then decided to sleep on the rest of my text.

Because I wasn’t exactly sure about my angle.

The topic is important enough to help create awareness for an increasing health opportunity. Having said that, I’m not exactly an expert in mental health.… Read the rest

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Dialogue Lead Yourself & Inspire Others Reflection Self awareness

People see right through you!

Many people believe others can’t read them. Unfortunately, that belief is more often than not false.

We see right through and smell it when something is wrong.

This week I was watching a debate between politicians. We have elections coming up in the Netherlands, so it’s debate time.

One politician, Wopke, was visibly nervous.… Read the rest

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Coaching Leading Self Mindset Self awareness

Are you coachable? For real?

Are you coachable?

“Who would respond no to that question?”

That’s the question my daughter asked me when she read the headline of my insight today.

My answer to her? “Nobody.”

“So, why do you ask the question?”

“Because I like to make my readers aware that there’s a difference between saying your coachable and actually being coachable.”… Read the rest

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Decision Making Mindset Self awareness

Why every single decision you make counts

You make thousands of (tiny) decisions every day. 

Most of them happen without even thinking about them. Those are the result of the habits you’ve built over time. 

Get up now or later?
Brush our teeth or not?
Coffee or tea?
Social media or work?

What we’re not always aware of is that every decision we make has consequences. 
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Purpose Self awareness

I forgot myself a little

“I forgot myself a little.”

That was one of the headlines in the news last week.

The headline came with the announcement that one of the most talented road cyclists in the Netherlands would quit cycling for a while.

If any current Dutch road cyclist ever has the chance to win the most famous road race, the Tour de France, it is Tom Dumoulin.… Read the rest

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Beliefs Differentiation Marketing Self awareness

Last chance or you’re fired

When was the last time someone said that to you?

Most likely, it never happened to you, but if it did, how did you respond? What did you do? How did such a message make you feel?

Did you get your act together and started to deliver the results you were asked to deliver?… Read the rest

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Goals Performance Self awareness Transformation

How not to be a fitness tourist

When we lived in Huntersville, North Carolina, I went to the gym twice per week before work. My schedule alternated from cardio to swimming to a good strength session with Mike, my fitness trainer. 

Life was good.

Except in January. 

Fitness Tourists

I remember going to the gym on the first working day in January, and the place was packed.… Read the rest

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Goals Reflection Self awareness

Be happy with less. You’ll get more.

Yesterday evening, my family and I strolled through downtown Prague.

During Xmas time, Prague is one of the most beautiful cities to be visiting with all its architectonical magic and festive lighting. The pandemic doesn’t change that.

Actually, it did change the experience.

There were a few things significantly different this year, be it that the city itself is still the same. … Read the rest

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Change Experimentation Learning Self awareness

That’s JUST the way we do things around here

When was the last time you got out of your comfort zone?

I’m aware I may have asked this question before, but I got reminded last week while participating in a webinar.

One of the speakers shared with the audience that when he woke up every morning, he planned one activity for that day to get out of his comfort zone.… Read the rest

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Change Self awareness Transformation Vision

No pain. No gain. Also for a Tiger

Tiger Woods played the last six holes of his Masters tournament on Sunday five below par. That means he was five shots better than he should have been according to the course standards (par).

That’s not the story, though.

The story is that he posted his worst score ever on the hole before.… Read the rest

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Marketing Self awareness

Breaking news: FOMO.

Yesterday evening our son Max suggested that I should start each of my daily insights with breaking news.

I talked at dinner about my experiment with daily insights and my intention to extend the number of subscribers on my email list so more people would see my online offering in a few weeks.… Read the rest

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Leadership Self awareness

Leave your wounded ego at the door. 6 simple leadership lessons.

I typically read two to three books at a time. One book lies on my bedside table and is for relaxation before I go to sleep. One business book is lying around in the house for educational reading during the day, and then one audiobook for the car.

The bedside book is written by Rutger Bregman and titled Humankind: a Hopeful History.… Read the rest

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Impact Leading Self Learning Self awareness

The merciless difference between intention and impact? Your social context.

Last week, the Netherlands’ royal family decided to spend the autumn vacation in their summer house in Greece. They departed on Friday with the governmental plane.

Only the prime minister was aware of their plans as he bears the governmental responsibility for the royal family.

While they were in the air on their way to Greece, hell broke loose at home.… Read the rest

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COVID-19 Learning Self awareness

Why don’t we learn?

Before I elaborate more, a small disclaimer. I realize that the timing may differ depending on your location, and some of you may not have left the first wave yet.

When I watch the news, I hear the same conversations all over again. When I check the Whatsapp groups I’m part of, the discussion seems precisely the same as six months ago.… Read the rest

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Authenticity Presence Self awareness

Show up

Showing up matters. Showing up is a critical component of being successful in life and work. Showing up has many components and can be seen both literally and in a symbolic way of speaking.

You can show up in person, with your presence, with the tools you have available to make yourself ‘heard’.… Read the rest

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Leadership Self awareness

It’s cool to be a rebel these days. But why?

Do we need more rebels? Or are we looking for something else?

If you read about leadership regularly, you must have seen the word rebel passing by. We are exposed to ‘corporate rebels,’ we learn about rebel leaders, and I’ve read the term authentic rebel on more than one occasion. Apparently, it’s refreshing to be a rebel these days.… Read the rest

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Goals Mindset Purpose Self awareness

Have time or make time?

It’s a big difference and it says a lot about you.

“I don’t have time.” One of the most heard (or expressed) sentences during our busy lives. You are regularly exposed to these four words or use them yourself more often than not. 

The problem is you actually do have time. … Read the rest

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Impact Leadership Self awareness

The Remarkable Power of Silence

Why silence is such a powerful leadership tool

When Justin Trudeau, the prime minister of Canada, paused for 21 seconds (check it out here) before answering a question about the racial tensions in the United States, everybody talked about the pause, not the content of his answer. The pause made most people so uncomfortable that it became the focus of attention during the news reports following the press conference.… Read the rest

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Change Self awareness

What if…?

What if…?

One of the most powerful questions there is. And yet, a question we don’t often experiment with.

Asking ourselves ‘what if…’ may imply regrets regarding a decision in the past. Or it may mean we need to do something different in the future—both a possible change to our status quo.… Read the rest